Another great chat with my hubby this evening. We both agree moving doesn’t solve the issues we’re dealing with. We know they’ll just follow us wherever we go. Neither of us had ever dreamed about moving out of state. With that said, there are a very select few reasons we would actually try and move. Let’s hope Nov. ‘22 proves to be great for Oregon, politically, and we’ll gain back some freedoms.
In the mean time, hubby and I agree that we need to find community. We’ve been isolated for so many years prior to Covid. When Josh died, everyone rallied around us in support, but it only lasted a few months. People went back to living their lives. We were left trying to find our “new normal”. This included a move to a small city outside of Portland where we’ve been 7 years. We left everything behind. We never rebuilt.
Today was very therapeutic. I reached out to the moms at our co-op practicality begging for someone to come over! So one mom is coming Friday to crochet with me while the kids play Pokemon and magnet tiles. Winning! But it gets better…one mom suggested an AWANA’s club so I search for one nearby. I called the church office and the children’s ministry lady said she knew a mom who had a heart for loss mom’s and would give her my info. But when she mentioned her name, I already knew she was in my local FB moms group. So I sent Jessica a PM and we’re having lunch on Friday!!! Winning, again! She has a non-profit in honor of her infant loss, and I’m soooo looking forward to that meeting! But wait, it gets wayyyy better! We’re having a couple and their 4 boys over for dinner on Saturday too!!! Can you believe it? I’m actually making plans with people to come over! Pinch me!
We need friends. We need other couples who “get it”. We need our roots to go deeper, so in these dark times, we have others to lean on. We’ve been alone for far too long. The ramifications are brutal. It’s going to take me a decent amount of time to dig out of this mess. Maybe someday I can help spare someone this pain and agony. Despite my isolation, I can be pretty good at networking apparently. So it would be pretty cool if I could get the two needs below, met in 2022. 🙏
Outnumbered Six to One 